Being a working mom is many things. It is rewarding because you are providing for your family, however, it is also tough, because that means you are spending less time with your children. And balancing work and motherhood is so very hard. That’s when the real mom guilt decides to settle in.
So from a mom of 5 who works full time, here are some of my best tips on how to best balance life as a working mom.
1. Involve Your Children
One of the most important things that you can do as a working mom, trying to balance it all, is including your children. Now, hear me out. I know sometimes it’s easy to want time to yourself, even if it’s to cook dinner. But sometimes involving them fills their cup and then you didn’t realize that you needed that too. So, your cup gets filled up too!
There are so many ways to involve your kids!
- Help you cook dinner
- Help around the house with chores
- Go with you on errands
- Have open conversation about the things that need to be done
As busy working moms, we try to do it all. And it’s really hard when you know you need to clean the kitchen or start a load of laundry and time just slips away. So involve them! They will love it! (And you know deep down, that you will too)
2. Involve Your Spouse
Does anyone else have trouble asking their spouse for help? Maybe it’s just me, but I struggle with asking for help sometimes. Sometimes the most basic things, I won’t ask for help. But when I do, and when he offers without me asking, it is such a great feeling.
Sometimes we need a break. Sometimes we just plain need help and that’s okay…whatever it may be.
So, communicate with your spouse about your needs. Trying to balance life as a working mom is tough, and no one knows what that is like other than…well, moms. So ask your husband for help! You may just end up being pleasantly surprised!
3. Create A Schedule…And Stick To It!
Creating a schedule and sticking to it is so beneficial for everyone. It is not only beneficial for you, so you know visually what needs to be done, but it’s good for kids too because they are seeing first-hand responsibility and what needs to be done, and when.
This also creates consistency which is (in my opinion) one of the most powerful tools that you can use in your life. If you’re consistent with your schedule, your kids will see that and they will be consistent too. It may take a while, but it will happen.
Also, going over it with them helps. Some schedules we have around the house are:
- Church schedule (we all have different responsibilities so we know when we are needed)
- School schedule and important events
- Doctors appointments
- List of chores
4. Make Good Use Of Your Time
Have you ever heard your Grandmother or teacher say “Use your time wisely?” I have multiple times. And it’s one of those things that didn’t click at all until I became an adult. So I slowly learned that the more I get done now, the less I have to do later.
For example, if everything gets done the night before, that is just fewer things that I have to worry about in the morning. I don’t have to rush around and get any of those things done.
To balance life as a working mom, making good use of your time is so crucial.
It kind of goes along the same lines as the popular saying, “Work now, play later”. It’s the mentality that instead of leaving things behind, just take care of it right away, and then when the time comes to spend time with your kids, or husband, you have just a little less to worry about.
5. Take Care Of Yourself
You have to take care of yourself to take care of others. So, take the time to take care of yourself. This will look so different for everyone so you really need to dig deep and find out what that means to you. Does that mean a shower? A walk by yourself? Exercising?
However it looks for you, make sure you do it. As busy moms, we can get so lost and in taking care of our children we forget to take care of ourselves. But we really have to, even if it’s just 30 minutes a day.
6. Make Time For Yourself
Making time for yourself is crucial, too. All of us moms need time to recuperate from the day and gather our thoughts. Maybe you like to watch Netflix. Maybe you like a glass of wine while watching your favorite TV show or a new movie (this is my go-to favorite thing to do), or maybe you want to spend your time doing the things you’re passionate about.
Do those things! Do those things that you love doing. Sometimes this requires a bit of sacrifice, but, your sanity will thank you.
7. Remember The Work Will Always Be There
This is a hard thing to remember. But, it’s true. The work will always be there, but your kids are only this age for so long.
“You will never have this day with your children again. Tomorrow they will be a little bigger then they are today. This day is a gift. Breathe and notice. Smell and touch them; study their faces and little feet and pay attention. Relish the charms of the present. Enjoy today mama. It will be over before you know it.”Jen Hatmaker
That brings tears to my eyes just reading that! But, it’s true. The work, the mess, it will always be there. So enjoy your children, and sometimes it is okay if there is a big pile of dishes!
8. Prayer Is The Key
The most important thing you can do to balance life as a working mom is praying. Prayer gets us through tough times, uncertainty, and joyous times. It gets is through it all. So, if you feel overwhelmed in your journey to balance life as a working mom, know that you are not alone and God is always with you.
Balancing life as a working mom is hard. There’s no way around that. However, there are many things we can do to make it a little better and a little easier. Some of those things require faith, asking for help, and leaning on your family.
Let me know in the comments how you balance your life as a working mom!
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